When we think about addiction, there are many feelings that get dredged up with that single word. The social weight of that word is still as heavy The stigma persists. What's more, casual admissions and commitments often seem much less of a celebration because of the accompanying alienation. Making the transition to sobriety means committing to some major life changes. And change is hard. Change is scary.
we are should Celebrate such an important thing – commit to moderation. Because changing your life so profoundly is Hard – regardless convenience. If you are walking the road to recovery, you are doing a very difficult job. Take a moment and rejoice in your victory. You have started the journey. But it's more than that. It takes courage and perseverance. It requires patience and understanding from you and those around you. It takes a community. And it takes time.
“Anyone can give up; It's the easiest thing in the world to do. But holding on when everyone expects you to crumble, now that's real strength.” – Chris Bradford
With so many important ingredients to produce these long-lasting, life-changing results, it may seem like the long road is forever out of reach. In fact, the possibilities on the road ahead can become quite overwhelming. It can even crowd hostile thoughts and whisper words of vanity. If you're in this place, if you're feeling this right now, know that you're not alone. The big picture isn't always the most useful perspective – especially in the early stages of your recovery.
You may not be ready to say something like, “I don't drink anymore.” ok Honestly, setting goals that offer zero room for deviation is not very realistic. Such all-or-nothing language is not a useful way to frame your recovery. So think small. Think about what you do can committed to
Think about today – just today. And tomorrow, think about that day. This is where we begin. These are our foundations upon which we can build tools and give more confidence to say 'I say no'.
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe
Always remember that your goals – both long and short-term – should be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound – or smart. Do you see how the statement quoted above follows these parameters? It's quite specific and effectively time-bound, to be sure, but it also holds firmly to that attainable aspect — one that we often get stuck on.
Lofty goals can help us dream big, but we still need concrete and concrete ways to bridge the gap between where we are now and where we want to go. The ultimate goal of abstinence from addictive substances holds the torch for that ultimate achievement – but its lack of specificity makes it hard to feel accomplished with that single goal in mind as you work toward it in the moment.
“I think that power is policy. The principle of moving forward, that you have the confidence to move forward, gives you confidence when you finally look back and see what you've done.” – Robert Downey Jr
One method of creating achievable goals to embrace long-term recovery is to write down some of your lofty goals and then work backwards to where you currently are.
What are the SMART goals that will allow you to close the gap?
Consider some of these other small goals as stepping stones to achieving your long-term recovery results.
- I will find a mentor within ____ time
- I will start treatment in next ___ days
- I will attend at least one recovery-related service per week
- I will take a different route home to avoid past triggering or driving to habitual locations
- I will reach out to someone in my support network every week
- I will begin weekly therapy sessions by this time next week
- I will spend half an hour each day doing a craft or activity that I enjoy every day
- I will ask my friend to help me hold myself accountable before a social gathering this month
Some of these examples are sure to shake things up. We are creatures of habit and changing our routines can feel like an addition to stress rather than a way to maintain relaxation. But breaking out of old routines that fuel your addiction will make things easier in the long run.
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience but where he stands in times of challenge and controversy.” – Dr. Martin Luther King Jr
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